Finding a trusted peer your can confide in and bounce thing off of is another way to grow as a professional. Timing is not as critical as finding the right people.  I have about 3 or 4 of these types of people in my life – my wife, an associate with whom I have coffee with each morning, and a good friend from out of town (not a lawyer). You have to give a confidant the right to speak into your life and career. Provide them with the avenue to candidly express an opinion about your situation or tell you in no uncertain terms that you are right or wrong.  

Having a mentor is great, but a closer associate will allow you to speak very frank and candidly discuss issues, problems and ideas. These people can be your “sounding board” to help you determine if you really have an issue or if you are seeing the situation clearly.  I have even found that expressing joys, frustrations or concerns to a confidant may pay dividends, as they can sometimes find a way to help you out in a tight situation. 

Take a look around and determine if you have a confidant. If you do not have one, start working towards developing that type of relationship. Let us know what effective strategies you use to develop or grow confidant relationships.

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