Inexperience is a simple way to describe not having experience, YET. Everyone faces the quandary of having minimal experience in various situations. It occurs when you start a new job or begin a career. This position doesn’t just happen to young people. In fact, older people are sometimes the worst at dealing with the inexperience that accompanies a situational change. No matter the circumstance, inexperience can be a valuable position, if properly utilized.


Highly effective individuals consciously use their inexperience as a benefit and not a hindrance. The first few years of your career or few months of new employment are periods when you can ask questions and get away with not “knowing the ropes.” Don’t take this to the extreme, but you will generally learn more and receive help from others if you simply take the time to ask intelligent questions. Use this time to evaluate yourself and the organization you have joined. It will prove critical to your future success as a professional and with that particular establishment.


Your inexperience will also present the opportunity to look at a situation from a fresh perspective and offer insightful direction, change or even an appreciation for what is already in place. (Penelope has a great blog about the first 90 days of a new job). I spoke to a friend of mine today who just took a new job, in a new city. As soon as he stepped foot in the building, he knew there were problems. (Here’s another great blog about the interview vs. actual job difference.) However, the existing people who have been invested for years have been looking the other way. Tough decisions had to be made, so… (more…)


Had a good (and funny) conversation with a few friends the other night about “how to find a man.” I’ll describe them as a few young, single and looking young ladies.  I’m no expert on this subject (my wife would probably be better suited to discuss), but I tried to give them some advice from ”the man’s perspective.” The best thing I could tell anyone about tying the knot is two fold 1) find the right person (see the video below) and 2) don’t get married until you are absolutely ready. #2 may cause a strain on your current relationship, but I think it is critical that you do what you want/need to do before you make this lifetime commitment. Sometimes doing those things will even help you find your mate. Once you’re married, it’s no longer just up to you – to maintain a successful marriage every decision becomes a joint decision.  I needed to do things like live in DC and work on Capitol Hill, finish my undergrad and law degree, travel, and establish my career. The time it took me to get to the altar may have been  too long for my bride (just ask her, she will tell you all about it), but it was critical for me.


The following video is from New Spring Church. It was aimed at the guys, but I understand from Tony Morgan’s blog that the women in attendance like it the most. LL and EN, this entire post (and video) is just for you!

How to Find A Wife (Ladies, this is for you too)


Striving for the Best!-mwr

Alright, I have been blogging furiously for the past month and the stats show a few of you actually read the posts. Al even added me back to his blogroll. Jon (my own brother) couldn’t care less. Moving forward, I want to know what you are interested in reading or discussing. WordPress added a poll tool, so if you are having election withdrawls or just want to be heard (I want to hear you) chime and make your voice known……

Striving for the Best!-mwr

So, today I was cranking away at the office and my mind started to wonder away from drafting a HUGE contract, worth over $50 million (I can only focus on those kind of numbers for a little bit before my eyes start to cross). I jumped on the web for a few minutes of sanity and I ran across a very cool blog from Drew Powell. I followed a few threads to Pastor’s blog, then to Jon’s blog and I thought “Hey I have a blog too”…..I just never do anything with it! So, I looked my blog up and realized my last post was over a year ago. How pathetic!!!


Before I started this blog, I did all the research on the internet, followed the “Top 10 Tips for Writing a Blog,” got a buddy to design a cool header with my picture, wrote outlines for future blogs, drafted a bunch of blogs for those days when I had a mental block and was ready to go. It worked well for a while…..then life caught up with me and this blog went to the wayside.


Well, I think I am going to give it another go. I need an outlet. I hope that I can help and inspire just one person with my thoughts and experiences. The direction of the blog may change a bit, as I blog about topics I am passionate about. I will continue with some legal analysis, motorsports news and all the “fun stuff” I do everyday, but I want to interject some real life issues we all face – family, faith, fun, making a difference and just some tidbits from everyday life. (My wife told me that the legal stuff was boring and she liked my personal stories better.) I am gonna mix it up a bit and see what happens.


Leave me a comment if you took the time to read this one, so I know that someone is out there….


I would be honored for you to join me again and look forward to talking with you soon.

Yesterday was a good day. It began with 6am basketball and ended with a celebration dinner around 8:30 pm. The biggest event of the day was the second Daytona Beach City Commission reading of our zoning request change for the Daytona Live! project. We won approval with a unanimous 7-0 vote of the commission. I have previously posted pictures of this project here, so check them out.

Daytona LIve! is a fantastic development that I have had the privilege to work on. I have put in a ton of hours, but also learned a tremendous amount!! In the coming weeks, I plan to blog about some of the ups and downs, highs and lows, and failures and successes I have encountered throughout this project. We have a few more steps to go before construction starts, but with the zoning change our team can see the project taking shape. It is VERY exciting. Get ready Daytona Beach – a new world headquarters for International Speedway Corporation and NASCAR, plus a world class entertainment destination is coming your way!

Even with a month off, the blog has remained fairly active. After 2 months of being up (one moth of actually blogging),  we reached a milestone – 1,000 hits. Not sure where that rates in comparison, but I am sure it is not lighting the world on fire. In any event, it is a milestone and Reflective Counsel presses on…

                 I took a sabbatical and am now back. While away, I took some time to re-evaluate this blog. I am sure I lost some readers during the time away, but I wanted to be sure I was better focused. My wife thinks I need to talk less about “boring business stuff” and more about “fun things.” She has a decent point, so I am going to try to incorporate some more personal stories, while maintaining the business/legal focus. During the month, our church went on a Daniel Fast. It was truly a stretching point, but one that helped me to focus on the things that really matter and seek continued direction for my life.

                I came across a great article for you bloggers out there – How to Blog and Keep a Full Time Job. I am taking the advice and will hopefully stay on track.

Al dropped me from his blogroll (maybe I can get back in his good graces…), but my brother, Troy and Marvin still have the love.  Brewster, Evan, and Tomas never added me…I guess I have to work harder for some love!

Look for my a post in the next few hours and coming days….it is good to be back!

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